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  I'm under a lot of stress! This past Wednesday, I lost my virginity to this guy that I've only been "messin' around" with for about a month. He's not my boyfriend, but I really do like him a lot. The first 10 minutes hurt so bad, and it felt like his penis was in my stomach! Is that possible? Also, we got so caught up that we didn't use a condom, but he did pull out. It's now Saturday (the 3rd day) and it's probably too late for the EC thing. The thing is, my period is ALWAYS irregular, sometimes it comes after 2 months or whatever else, so I wouldn't know if I was pregnant or not. I'm tearing myself up because I'm not sure if I'm pregnant, and I have to wait two weeks for a pregnancy test, right? If i was pregnant, I'd DEFINETLY get an abortion, but does my mom have to know about it, and how much are they because I don't make that much money. I'm a senior saving to go to college this year. What should I do? I want ortho-tricyclin (I think that's what it is) because I heard it will regulate my periods, clear my skin, and I can have sex without a condom. I regret it sometimes because we weren't ever together that many times and we don't even go together. I don't know that much about him and I keep thinking he used me, even though he didn't. I was upset that he didn't call me the next day, and it's really stressful, I'm so confused and if I tell my mom, I know she'd be VERY VERY disappointed and tell all of the women in the family about it. I'm scared to death. I'm so stressed out, I don't know what I'm going to do. I don't have an appetite and I lock myself in my room and sleep all day, thinking about him. I'm so ashamed that I'm a statistic and he ran game on me just like that. What should I do!!!!!??? :(

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Dear K,

Yes, you should wait at least 2 weeks before taking a pregnancy test, and Emergency Contraception is no longer an option for you.

As far as your feelings, we can understand all of what you describe and are going through, and while what is done can't be undone, you can use this experience to act as a reminder for your future behavior. Thus, you can turn this into a valuable event (although not a pleasurable event in your life).

What you described is very common not only among young people, but adults as well and doesn't make you any less of a person, just human.
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